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From A Reader: Is It Right For A Guy To Ask A Girl For Money?

A lot of my male chykers do that. We may not even be dating yet, once they sense you like them, they start finding the flimsiest excuses to ask you for money. When you don’t give them, they say you are stingy! Not wife material.

What’s up with that?

Then I had this boyfriend who called me one time and said he is broke. I felt sorry for him cos I know it happens. I bought breakfast, lunch and dinner for him that day. I bought him recharge card and gave him some money to go home. It’s not like I have so much money but I realise that love is about sharing and helping.

After this kind gesture, it kind of became a rule that whenever he asks me for money, that I have to give it to him.

When I tell him I have no money, he doesn’t believe me. Rather he makes some funny comments and had even kind of grown cold towards me.

That’s not fair or what do you think? Is it right for a guy to ask a girl for money?



  1. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 7:06 am

    Woow can you be my boyfriend doe

  2. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 7:34 am

    Well its not exactly right. But its kinda embarrassing.. I used to have this boy who would ask me for money every time. But I broke up with him when it started to feel like he's taking me for granted.

  3. Ameriestyle

    May 31, 2013 at 7:53 am

    Next time don't give

  4. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 8:29 am

    Its is right. God can u anybody to help anybody but not for us to take eachothers for granted. It could be a test . But some guys could be funny at times

  5. @jazmine_89

    May 31, 2013 at 8:36 am

    No way in fuckin hell shld a girl give a guy/bf/lover money! D only reason I'd give a guy cash is if he were my husband and its not all d time! Men hv learnt to b parasites n when u don't give them "you're not wife material". Men know women are naturally kind hearted so they prey on that. A real man provides for his woman it aint d oda way round. It takes more than having a d*ck to b "a real man". Ladies any guy that does this to u pls dump his sorrry a$$! U're not desperate and you're worth so much more!

  6. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 9:30 am

    U have a point! But really things and times have changed! These days women are doing so well that some guys wonder if it's now a woman's world! I'm a guy and most times I find it difficult to ask a lady for help…altho' I have been in a situation where a lady bailed me out once. What I'm saying in essence is that if a lady is in a position to assist someone(man/woman)let her assist. I'm not saying they should be allowed to be taken for granted anyway.

  7. JimCaddy

    May 31, 2013 at 9:33 am

    You are so on point.. It could be a test but the funny thing is that some girls fail woefully…

  8. joy monica arsenal

    May 31, 2013 at 10:51 am

    i dont think it is right for a man to ask a woman for money no matter what.some men after giving them they use it to give thier other gurlfriends.they are so mean

  9. Oluyomi Odukoya

    May 31, 2013 at 10:53 am

    It depends on the kind of man we are talking about. I dated one guy like that who I really liked and I spent on him not knowing he had a pregnant girlfriend who is now his wife. When I found out and things went awry he told people I enticed him with gifts and money. Can you beat that?

  10. Deekay

    May 31, 2013 at 11:16 am

    No condition is permanent. Cos he's asking you for money today doesn't mean it will remain that way for ever unless of course he's a WASTE MAN.

    I would give my guy money if I had and he was in need.

    Even if he isn't in need I won't mind buying him expensive gifts or investing in business with him. All depends on the type of guy.

  11. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 11:40 am

    test my backside! rubbish brokeass sorry piece of shit!

  12. Austin Uche

    May 31, 2013 at 11:44 am

    first things first there is nuffin wrong for a gurl giving her guy money…. It mite he wants to undertake a project and he dosnt have much she can support…..

    But its not a good look for a guy to consistently ask a woman for money…. Its not a good look @ all

  13. Pinky Kim

    May 31, 2013 at 12:16 pm

    Without mincing words only light weight kinda of men depend on their women for money

  14. Ovoko

    May 31, 2013 at 12:20 pm


  15. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 1:43 pm

    Yea I can give my guy money if his broke since I knew is not a lezy type. But I hate if he ask any I only give wen I notice by my self dat tuely is broke or in need of sometin n he can get at d moment.

  16. Oby Azike

    May 31, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    It's ok to give as long as he doesn't take you for granted

  17. Michael David

    May 31, 2013 at 3:16 pm

    Love and relationship is all about sharing but anything done to the extreme ain't good. Personally i work harder than the average male so that i would be self sufficient and not dependent on any woman. Its a thing of pride for some men.. If the guy is being sincere with his problems then the lady helping out ain't wrong but if he's a lazy ass dude that loves being fed then ignore him cuz it'll become a trend that you as the lady can't afford.

  18. Anonymous

    May 31, 2013 at 11:23 pm

    I would say no!
    I once dated one guy dat was always broke I picked up d bills wenever we went out 2 joints clubs etc.
    One day we wia at a famous (if I name d place he will knw cos I tink he reads dis blog) fast food joint and as usual I hd bot all the eatables wen one girl I keep hearin him talk about walked in2 d joint wit 2 of her friends he left our table 2 go and greet dem at d counter of course they wia nw pressuring him 2 buy stuffz 4 dem do u knw dis guy had d guts 2 come bak 2 d table and ask me 4 money to buy tinz 4 dem wen I refused he was nw like he can see my plans 2 embarass him! Like seriously? If u knw dia is no money in ur pocket why did u agree dat u will pay 4 dia food? Azin d table he came bak 2 is to withdraw money abi wetin? I just calmly carried my bag and dat was the end of the relationship!

  19. Anonymous

    June 1, 2013 at 1:44 am

    lmao that is one hell of a guy really shameless


    June 1, 2013 at 5:04 am

    Wat silly test ? Take ur sorry ass excuse of a test else where.a man that has self pride won't ask a lady for cash even when his broke

  21. Anonymous

    June 1, 2013 at 9:54 pm

    that guy is a kangaroo. lol

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    June 2, 2013 at 5:07 pm

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  24. Victor Kwame Sampong

    June 3, 2013 at 10:22 am

    Bullshit!…i'm in the 8th month with ma babe and we help each other out in times of need without ulterior motives! I give her money to cook or she finances the cooking when i don't have. She uses her head and purse to buy a needed item in the house anytime the need arises while i also do same. Mehn…that's ma future 'Help mate'
    she as well gives me change when i urgently need it while she also has access to ma ATM when she also needs it but with my consent though….hahahahahaha. Luv u Alice!

  25. alice kingsley

    June 3, 2013 at 12:17 pm

    u gus get married already…i cannot assist a guy financially when we dateing cos such ladies are been yabbed by men and called desperados …he has close friends nd relatives to ask from ….if u can open ure mouth nd ask me for money dat u aint man enough…mayb when we married we can cometogeda for a prject ..not wen we still dating.

  26. Anonymous

    June 4, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    From all u ve said @Victor its obvious u re a broke ass nigga u simply have change in your damn ATM.

  27. Anonymous

    June 5, 2013 at 8:05 am

    [email protected] Lame excuse.

  28. Anonymous

    June 5, 2013 at 9:25 am

    A real man won't ask but if his attitude tells me that he's broke then I can help. Nevertheless I hate it when a guy could openly ask a lady for cash.

  29. Anonymous

    March 2, 2014 at 9:44 pm

    Whether you call it help or support or whatever the plain truth is it is not right for a guy to ask a lady for money gift or anything.that translates to begging it ois unafrican irresponsible and lack of self pride infact any guy that does dat is not a man but a looser.PERIOD

  30. Torie Thompson

    March 10, 2014 at 12:02 am

    I am a woman n I love helping my man anytime.Yet I feel I shouldn't help unless his my husband.

  31. Anonymous

    February 16, 2015 at 3:43 pm

    U re right more especially wen u re not yet married to him n he will tell u give me loan I will pay back n he never does.

  32. Anonymous

    May 4, 2015 at 1:18 pm

    Very very annoying when guys begin to ask ladies for money. The guy is shameless. he has no self worth. In most cases he isnt even married to the ladies in qtn. LADIES DONT GIVE. cos if he truly cares abt u he will b too shy to let u into his financial crisis world too soon for fear that he will loose u. Afterall its guys we dont like that we keep taxing all the time. DONT B FOOLED.

  33. Anonymous

    December 3, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    "Cos he's asking you for money today doesn't mean it will remain that way forever."

    Oh yes it does. Once you lend them money and show them what a mug you are they will keep coming back for more. They must be queuing round the street at your house. Some people just have to learn the hard way.

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