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My husband has returned to Catholic Church we both left years ago – Blog reader cries out

A blog reader who wants to remain anonymous sent me this mail this morning and she really needs our advice.

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“Good morning bis sis. I have been a silent ardent follower of your blog and i love your work.
I need advice on this issue.
I got married in December last year and both my husband and myself attend Mfm. We were born Catholics and we’ve left the church for more than 10 years i.e before we even met.
My FIL kind of persuaded my husband to return to Catholic bcuz he’s the first born and i wouldn’t have married him if I met him as one.
I have decided not to follow him to the church but its causing issues between us. I don’t have a problem with the church and I would have gladly accepted it if came from my husband’s mind but my problem is the influence of my FIL (he’s kind of controlling if u let him).
Should I confront him or lay low like a docile wife?”

36 Comments

36 Comments

  1. nwanze martha

    April 21, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    Nawa.. Aunty pray to God ask him for his reason if he Still persist.. Follow him. To Avoid a broken home.
    (Ada laila)

  2. nwanze martha

    April 21, 2017 at 12:36 pm

    Nawa.. Aunty pray to God ask him for his reason if he Still persist.. Follow him. To Avoid a broken home.
    (Ada laila)

  3. azuka mary vincent

    April 21, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    Catholic church? And you are still thinking? Pls be grateful he wasn't influenced into changing to one white garment church that worships beside one of the streams around your place. ( I don't really think you have a choice dear it isn't worth fighting he will change back if you believe in your prayers)

  4. Married man

    April 21, 2017 at 12:42 pm

    You don't have a problem with the church?

  5. Chris Bankz

    April 21, 2017 at 12:44 pm

    MARRIAGE AND RELIGON! DO YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND BECAUSE OF WHO HE IS OR BECAUSE OF THE CHURCH HE ATTENDS? I GUESS THATS THE QUESTION SHE SHOULD ASK.

  6. plumpy j

    April 21, 2017 at 12:46 pm

    Aunty in as much they are serving God in Catholic you have no issues.

  7. Ada Amawbia

    April 21, 2017 at 12:57 pm

    What wrong with Catholic Church as much as I know Catholic is good a I'm not one but for I see nothing wrong so join him instead of broken home. It isn't worth fighting dear

    AMAWBIA UGBO OGIRIGA

  8. seyi afolabi

    April 21, 2017 at 1:03 pm

    When he start cheating come and ask for advice this one isn't an issue Abeg….

  9. Tina Andersson

    April 21, 2017 at 1:10 pm

    Truth be told I am not a catholic. I was born and adventist and am still an adventist but catholic church is the only unbiased church ever. You do not need to be a member to get favour from them. They dont tell you they will raise the dead and move mountains. They are the only set of christians that are liberal and open minded to others. From experience they are the christians I can trust even more than adventists.

  10. truthfinder 2

    April 21, 2017 at 1:11 pm

    Your statement 'I don't have problem with the church as long as it's coming from his mind' has actually given you away. Which means you are not remaining in mfn bcos of personal conviction but to please your hubby only. Since it's not based on personal conviction or principle refusing to go to Catholic Church merely bcos of your Father in law's influence on your husband is a lame excuse.

  11. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 1:11 pm

    Madam bear with me I have questions for you please don't be angry: (1)Do you have a different God in MFM that you have reason to believe is different from that of the Catholics? (2) if your answer is yes where do you people believe he is in heaven inside the ground or in the seas? (3) the doctrine preached in both churches is it not about salvation heaven and hell? Enuf of the questions.

    Many a time passing through MFM churches praying I hear…Fire! fire! fire! burn them! burn them! kill! kill! kill the enemy!. And I ask are the enemies you ask God to kill not humans that he created but who perhaps deviated? Why judge them terrible so much that the only thing you recommend and request is that God should kill them? Why not ask God to reverse them to the state of mind they were when they were born than to assassinate or massacre them?

    Well should your answer be that it is same God in heaven I would suggest you follow your husband. Oya turn to the Bible: Ephesians 5:22-24 what does it say? Abeg madam follow your husband before another lady follows him.

    My name: Chika

    My name: Chika

  12. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 1:17 pm

    So your problem is CATHOLIC CHURCH…really? .is it not d same God dat we all worship as Christians …AUNTY I have no words 4 U …u think u are better than we Catholics . I know ur type…continue causing havoc in ur home…mtcheeew… Trying 2 blame ur FIL

  13. Cornelius Chukwu

    April 21, 2017 at 1:20 pm

    Sister Babatunda Fashola is a Muslim and the wife? Learn from that.

  14. truthfinder 2

    April 21, 2017 at 1:24 pm

    However if your association with mfm is based on personal conviction I would advise you to prayerfully stand your ground while at the same time showing unconditional love to your husband and in law's. It will be rough at the beginning but God will vindicate you in due course.

  15. lisa peters

    April 21, 2017 at 1:33 pm

    Just allow God to direct u….shikena

  16. Mira Monroe

    April 21, 2017 at 2:18 pm

    That's why men will continue using you and disposing you like a cheap somalian used condom!

  17. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 2:20 pm

    Madam don't let stubbornness break your home!as a woman ones you are married your husband becomes your best friend n king you must love and respect his people with all your might because that is your new n permanent home if you wish to stay n grow old in marriage. A woman has no church or religion even in marriage you can only tender your reasons to him with respect but if he insist madam Change you must don't drag your point too far oh cause anything that has two head is a monster.don't see it as your father in laws voice fine tone it as your Hubby's it shall be well with your home.

  18. evelyn

    April 21, 2017 at 2:31 pm

    Madam you've got no issues. Is Catholic not a church?

  19. Uncle Babs

    April 21, 2017 at 2:37 pm

    wow…mehn this your comment burst my liver.so matured an unbiased.kudos

  20. Derrick Chidumebi

    April 21, 2017 at 2:49 pm

    You sound like you have a problem with the church… Follow your husband for now but make him realise you value your family privacy. All FILs should step outside when decisions are being made…

  21. azuka mary vincent

    April 21, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    Beautiful reply

  22. ebodee4

    April 21, 2017 at 2:59 pm

    I really don't Ve anything to say my sister…

    based on ebodee….

  23. DIVINE

    April 21, 2017 at 3:05 pm

    Now this I say that every one of you saith I am of Paul; and I of Apollos; and I of Cephas; and I of Christ. Is Christ divided? was Paul crucified for you? or were ye baptized in the name of Paul? 1 cor 1:12-13. I was born into a catholic home though at a point in time i decided to attend pentecostal churches but i discovered that alot of the new generational churches even the old ones aren't following the real precepts of the true teachings of Christ rather they were so much concerned with material gains and so on. Today i am still a catholic & very proud i remain one. Et unam santam catholicam et apostolicam Ecclesiam confiteor unam baptisma in remissionem peccatorum. Et expecto resurrectionem mortuorum et vitam venturi saeculi.

  24. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 3:18 pm

    This is d same issh my parents had that scattered a happy home. Mum is an Anglican Dad Catholic and this other domination can't understand us(Catholics) mum held on for yrs but was always complaining bitterly about lack of Bible reading. I grew up in Enugu so bible reading is a NO NO in Catholic churches then except bulletin mum cldnt take d frustration anymore and joined SU. Mind u die die die fire fire fire was a strange prayer in d 90s so wen mum started with her incantations called prayer she was given an instruction to choose going back to Catholic or moving into d children's room she choose children's room. That was were d fire started! No more peace in my house my father will talk mama go quote bible and shade Catholics it got to a point either u move out or come back to where I married u in…there was a resolve kindof anyways but things ain't same anymore that singular act messed my childhood up! She went back to Catholic alright but always made sure she dressed to disgrace us we stopped going with her o she go go her 6am come back cook Sunday food carry Bible waka…. Its BITTER I must say… My advice God can hear ur prayer anywhere u r he is Catholic and head of d house d same bible said honor ur husband u r lucky he is not d Native type that will force u to do native doc things… Follow him to Catholic do ur MFM prayers wen u can. Jesus saves not Church my sis…. I speak from experience pls don't spoil ur home

  25. Hector Patrick

    April 21, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    Aaamen! aaamen aaamen!..Responds @ #Divine# to the Latin version of creed..Catholic till I die..

  26. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 4:06 pm

    You said you do not have a problem with the church but at the same time you said you wont have married him if you met him a catholic. You confuse me.

  27. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 4:09 pm

    You said you do not have a problem with the church but at the same time you said you wont have married him if you met him a catholic. You confuse me. My advice to you is pick you fights wisely. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and the battles you start will determine how your home will be.

  28. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 4:28 pm

    u are soo funny. ur comment got me laughing

  29. Anonymous

    April 21, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    You said you do not have a problem with the church but at the same time you said you wont have married him if you met him a catholic. You confuse me. My advice to you is pick you fights wisely. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and the battles you start now will determine how your home will be.

  30. Yeye Dey Smell

    April 21, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    Anty Agbaya ur thoughts shows the kind of training you got 'I don't have a problem with the church and I would have gladly accepted it if came from my husband's mind but my problem is the influence of my FIL'. So because it's ur FIL that persuaded him it's no lonnger right and you won't have a problem if he had made the choice himself. Continue i don't even know where guys go to pick up Silly untrained girls to marry. That is how my elder brother went to marry one devilish girl like that that can lie for Africa. Anyway as you lay your bed is the way ur lie on it. Your thoughts show you don't have respect and home training

  31. Ife Leke

    April 21, 2017 at 6:19 pm

    Go to the church and keep praying for a change of heart for him. It is really about Jesus and not church.

  32. Jennifer Lawrence

    April 21, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    Gbamest ?

  33. T.tonie Don

    April 22, 2017 at 10:06 am

    God bless

  34. Ceasermua

    April 22, 2017 at 1:21 pm

    My question is if you follow him to his church are you going to be happy? If yes follow him but if no tell him to allow you worship where your mind and heart is. Marriage is for happiness not humiliation.

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